Listing of Mourners
We offer a free-of-charge listing service, with a dedicated usher arriving early at the church or crematorium, to look after mourners
as they arrive, who may be unsure about where to go, which chapel the service will be in or anxious about what they should be doing.
The usher is on hand to help and assist your mourners at a distressing time.
The Usher will also collect names of those attending the service, on specially designed cards, in case you miss anyone on the day.
They hand out specially designed postcards and pens, to collect names of mourners, anyone not there on the day who they may be
representing, any message and contact details if they wish. The cards will ultimately be given to the family with a typed summary
to ensure a complete picture of the day.
They will ensure everything is set up exactly as you wish, with the music selection checked, service sheets on seats where appropriate
and will be on hand to collect charitable donations in lieu of flowers for your chosen charity, after the service.
The Usher is also able to pre-seat the mourners in the chapel, on most occasions, to ensure they are comfortable and the arrival of
the funeral cortege is calm and as stress-free as possible for the close family at a time of deep distress.
Eulogy
A eulogy is a piece spoken at a funeral to commemorate the person who has died, to say farewell, and to bring to life some of the memories
and thoughts that the congregation will have of the deceased.
A eulogy can be written and delivered by anybody who feels that they would like to do so. They are not just reserved for large funerals
with a big congregation, or modern services without a minister of religion, they are used daily by all families from all walks
of life.
The first thing to remember is that their is no right or wrong way to write the eulogy, it is more important that it is a personal
reflection of the person that has died, than it is a formal piece of writing designed to fit a particular style.
This section of our website will offer various poems and pieces of prose that have been used before, and that are popular at funerals.
These can be a useful starting point around which to build your own eulogy.
Each of our Funeral Directors will be able to offer advice on how to write a personal eulogy when approached by a client, although
more often than not the Officiant will create a Eulogy with the assistance of the family. Please speak with your local office for
assistance.
Music/Hymns
Music plays a significant role in personalising a funeral service. Whether the funeral is a religious or non-religious ceremony, carefully
chosen music can be of immense emotional support to the bereaved.
The inclusion of a hymn in a funeral service gives those present an opportunity to participate more fully in the ceremonial act of
farewell to the deceased.
What Music is appropriate ?
The music you choose for a funeral can be anything from traditional hymns and organ music to something more modern.
As funerals become more personalised and unique to reflect the life of the person who has died, families are opting for personal favourites
or contemporary songs to be played. Music can be light-hearted, even humorous or you could even be played by a live musician.
Depending on the location of the service, there may be certain restrictions. Although many churches and crematoria allow contemporary
music, in some instances they may not permit CDs to be played, insisting on organ music.
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Music in Church
When music is requested as part of a funeral service in church, we can help arrange your requirements with yourself, the minister
and the organist
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Music in Crematoria Chapels
All crematoria offer facilities for the provision of recorded music, and, almost without exception, an electronic or pipe
organ is also available. At the crematorium a maximum of two hymns should be chosen. If more than two hymns are requested and
the service is likely to run over its time scale, the booking of double chapel time must be considered.
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Cemetery Chapels
The majority of cemetery chapels do not possess an organ or even a harmonium although recorded music is available in some.
Contemporary music
Special musical favourites of you loved one may be added, whether it is played at the beginning, in the middle or at the end of services
and ceremonies and is just as likely to beopen or asked for, as more traditional hymns or music. Jazz, pop, gospel and football
songs are now more regularly played at funerals, even at those services conducted by clergy. Includedin this category are My way,
We’ll meet again, Softly as I leave you,Unforgettable, You’ll never walk alone, Wind beneath my Wings and Tears from Heaven the
last of these being particularly poignant at the funeral of a child. Music which reflects the person’s hobbies; such as theme tunes
from Channel 4 horse racing, Countdown and Match of the Day.Live music; such as bagpipes, trumpeter, Spanish guitars and jazz bands.
White Doves
It is never easy to say goodbye to loved ones, but in addition to flowers, a white dove release for a funeral or memorial is one of
the most loving and inspirational gifts to give. Our doves are personally bred and trained by the family to ensure you receive
beautiful white birds that are guaranteed to return back to their home.
What the Doves Represent
Single Dove Release
The release of a single dove represents the spirit and soul of the departed being released to begin their ?nal journey home.
Two Dove Release
The release of a pair of doves represents the joining of two souls.
Four Dove Release
The release of four doves represents the spirit of the departed joining the Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit to be guided lovingly
on their final journey home.
You may also wish to have the closest members of the family release a single dove each to celebrate the life of the person
that has died.
Prices quoted include the collection of doves the day prior to the funeral, keeping safely overnight and watering and caring for them. The provision of
a vehicle and one member of staff to the venue and releasing the homing doves at the appropriate time. Those doves used on
local funerals live at the Lymn Rose family home and were bred there, are cared for there, and have been trained to find their
way home from the local cemeteries and crematoria. Therefore these doves can only be used within fifteen miles of their cote
in Arnold.
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One Dove - (Supplied locally) £60.00
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(Supplied non-locally)
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£120.00
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Two Doves - (Supplied locally) £80.00
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(Supplied non-locally)
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£160.00
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Three Doves - (Supplied locally) £95.00
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(Supplied non-locally)
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£190.00
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Four Doves - (Supplied locally) £105.00
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(Supplied non-locally)
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£210.00
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Any other quantity of doves can be made available. Please ask you funeral director for more information and prices.
Funeral Venues
There is a wide choice of either religious (Church, Chapel, etc.) or non-religious venues. For the latter a non-religious ceremony
can be held in ‘Any place that is capable of holding a coffin and a group of mourners with dignity’, the final disposal of the
deceased often assisting choice of location:
- For Cremation it would seem logical to hold the ceremony in the Crematorium chapel, crematoria often having the facility
to cover religious symbols with covers or blinds or indeed remove them altogether.
- For Burial, a simple graveside ceremony may be appropriate.
- Other options would be to hold the ceremony in the family home, the Funeral Director’s premises or in a local hall or community
centre.
